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  • Writer's pictureChyna T.

Do You Need Closure or Do You Need To Let Go?

Updated: Nov 13, 2023

Relationships end. Marriages End. Friendships End. Family pass or neglect us. Employers layoff and fire. Businesses bankrupt and close. Then life goes on.... for most. For some, they remain stagnant.

The question is: do you really need closure or do you refuse to let go because you're afraid of what life would be without this person, job, business?

In the tapestry of life, we often encounter relationships and situations that don't reach tidy conclusions. Whether it's a friendship that fades, a romantic relationship that ends abruptly, a neglectful family bond, or a job that suddenly vanishes, the search for closure can consume us. However, it's time to consider a radical perspective: Closure is not a prerequisite for moving on. In fact, embracing the unfinished chapters of our lives can lead to greater peace, growth, and empowerment.

The notion of closure suggests neatly tying up loose ends and finding resolution. Yet, this idealized concept can hinder our progress. It fixates us on seeking external validation, often leading to frustration, disappointment, and endless rumination. Instead, we can redefine closure as a personal journey rather than a destination.

When relationships or situations don't end with a clean break, we can be left in a state of limbo, yearning for answers that may never come. But does every chapter truly need a resolution? Life seldom adheres to Hollywood scripts, and unresolved matters are not inherently negative. In fact, they offer opportunities for introspection and growth.

Acceptance is the key to liberation. Accept that closure might never arrive, and this is okay. Accept that some people may never apologize or explain. Accept that jobs and circumstances can change without warning. By surrendering to these uncertainties, we free ourselves from the cycle of longing for answers that may never satisfy.

When closure remains elusive, it's time to validate ourselves. We don't need external approval to validate our feelings or experiences. By recognizing our emotions and understanding that they are valid, we take control of our own narratives. We empower ourselves to move forward, even in the absence of resolution.

Grieving the lack of closure is natural, but fixating on it inhibits our growth. Instead, shift your focus from what was lost to what you've gained. Every relationship, interaction, or experience contributes to our evolution. Release the notion that you need closure to heal; the true healing lies in acknowledging your strength and resilience.

Moving on doesn't require closure; it demands courage. Forgive yourself for any perceived mistakes, and let go of any self-blame. Accept the past as part of your journey, not as a roadblock. Embrace the unfinished stories as opportunities to rewrite your narrative, and empower yourself to create the ending you deserve.

Ultimately, closure doesn't define the worth of a relationship, the depth of an experience, or the significance of a chapter in your life. By accepting the lack of closure, you embrace the essence of resilience, growth, and self-discovery. Free from the burden of seeking resolution, you can embark on new beginnings with a sense of clarity and empowerment that transcends the need for tidy conclusions.

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